Have you ever been to that place with your loved ones where you are communicating but nothing is coming of it? I absolutely hate when that happens.
Since I have been reading Love and Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggrichs I have realized why a lot of that is. Honestly, I guess it is simply because I am female and full of emotions, that I just expect everyone to know what I want and what I am talking about (can I get a witness here)!
One of the worst things that I do when it comes to communicating is NOT communicating. I am serious. I hold everything in and don't say anything. Then one day, Stephen comes in, says one small thing that I don't like, and. . . KABOOM....the bomb has exploded. He has no idea why I have just went completely off the deep end on a subject that doesn't even have anything to do with what he said in the first place. Have you ever been there?
I am learning each day that I need to open up more. When something is done that bothers me, I need to speak up then instead of waiting until I am ready to explode. In fact, I was able to practice this the other night and I must say that I was quite impressed with the results. There was no yelling from me or my husband, no arguing or fighting. I simply shared how I felt and he said "thank you for telling me now instead of blowing up on me later". Up to this point, I did not realize what a burden that has been on my man.
So for this new year, I am working on new ways to communicate with both my husband and my children so that I don't seem like an ogre or a tyrant. I want to be just like the woman in Proverbs 31 whose husband and children praised her. She had the attitude that I want to exemplify in my own life. What about you?
Family thought for the day:
Retraining myself is hard, but I know in the end, it is the BEST thing for my family.