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Saturday, July 24, 2010

Negativity


Mirror, mirror on the wall, who is the prettiest of them all?

Not You!

Do you ever have this kind of response when you look in the mirror? Do you find yourself looking at the mirror wondering what happened?

I deal with this kind of negativity from myself daily. In fact I have the hardest time accepting any kind of flattering remark from my husband. I find myself saying things like:

"I am so fat. Why do you even like me?"

I am nothing but a ball of blubber.

When he comments and says things like

" I love your eyes the way they glisten in the sun", my first response is to roll my eyes and say "whatever".

I am learning that this kind of comment hurts my husband. We don't realize how much they play off the words that come out of our mouths. When I say things like this, I see the hurt in his eyes. He hates it when I put myself down.

The Solution!
There is a solution to this problem that actually works. I read in a book recently that a husband had his wife for two straight weeks, to get up every single morning and look at herself in the mirror, smile, and say--"I am a beautiful woman who is loved and adored by her husband."

In fact, every single time she had any kind of negative thought, she was to go to the mirror and repeat this phrase. When I first heard about this, I was like--WHATEVER!

But I am here to tell you that it does work. I have been doing it a lot and I have found that when I look in the mirror, I am beginning to see what my husband sees when he looks at me. However, sometimes I slip--like this morning when he said something about my beauty and I blew him off.

But after my bath and while putting on  my makeup, I looked at me in the mirror and said--YOU are a beautiful woman who is adored and loved by your husband.

Won't you do the same today? Let's rid our minds of the negativity and embrace the woman that our husband loves!   

3 comments:

Lesley said...

You ARE beautiful Jennifer! I'm so glad you are making a point to realize it. {{hugs}}

I started doing this in my own way after I had Gracie. I didn't get back that pre-pregnancy body and hated myself for awhile. And then I realized that I had to like myself because it just wasn't working otherwise. If I start feeling bad I start acting like I'm the most beautiful girl around. It usually works. LOL I told my husband once I just faked it til I felt it. He is much happier when I feel good about myself.

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