Something has been really bothering me the last few days. Since this is my blog, I thought I would address it here, just in case you may have some viewpoints on this topic as well.
I guess what has just got my blood to boiling is the fact that most of the kids in my neighborhood are raising themselves. The parents just don't seem to care anymore.
This is very saddening to me.
The day before yesterday, I had to go outside and be the referee to an argument that was going on between a couple of the boys that play with my kids. I sat them down and talked to them about their behavior while they are at my house. They both apologized and all was fine, but it just frustrates me.
Parents--PLEASE take your job seriously. It is not the school's responsibility or the church's responsibility to raise your kids! It is YOURS!
God gave each of us a charge the moment we realized we were with child. At that point, this special person that belongs to the Lord, was given to YOU to nurture and raise in the admonition of the Lord. From the moment we decided to become a parent, we were saying to God, "I can do this. I can be a parent." Does that mean we always do a great job? No! But what it does mean is that we strive to do our best for the Lord in caring for His creation.
Our kids are not to tend to themselves all the time so that we can go off and live our lives and party and just do "whatever." That life was given up when we became parents. Our job is to instruct them on how to live a life that is pleasing to the Lord. Kids NEED grownups who can share with them advice on how to be the person that will shape who they are in the future. They don't need friends. They have plenty of them What they need is a parent. They may not act like they want a grown ups advice, but deep down, they do. Trust me. I have talked to many kids who SOAK UP that interaction--when you pay special attention to them when they have a problem. They look for that guidance.
It is not the Youth Pastor's job to guide your children. It is not the teacher's job to guide your children. These people are there to HELP build upon what YOU, the parent, are teaching them.
I am not saying I have it all together, because frankly I don't. But Stephen and I have made a committment to our children and to each other to be there for them and to teach them until they leave the nest. We are not leaving anything to chance. We are not allowing the world to teach our children what we the parents are to teach them. Does this mean we coddle them and protect them from everything around them? Nope! It means we are the ones preparing them for whatever the world is going to throw at them. We are teaching them how the Lord would handle it.
Let's prepare our children to succeed in this generation that they are living.
What about you? Will you take this parenting challenge with me? Take the time today to sit down and talk with your child about what he needs from you, what she is not getting from you and build upon that.